Being Girlie, part 2

Here's another article on the same topic as before. Two points I found interesting:

1. Being attractive is detrimental. "Beautiful applicants received lower ratings, apparently because they were subconsciously pegged as stereotypically female and therefore unsuited for a job as a boss." Well that sucks. On the one hand society is telling women, "If you're not physically ideal, you're doomed to loneliness your entire life." And now there's a study saying if you are attractive, you're doomed to an unsuccessful career. I would argue the point a bit; I think it's possible to be both pretty and successful, but it does take more work to prove that you're more than just pretty. I was told in engineering school that while it might be easier to get a job as a woman engineer, it would be much harder to prove to my coworkers/superiors that I deserved the job due to the assumption that I only got the job to boost the equal opportunities numbers.
On the other hand, I think it would be great if more bosses thought like Dr. House:

Dr. House: Would that upset you, really? To think that you were hired because of some genetic gift of beauty, not some genetic gift of intelligence?

Dr. Cameron: I worked very hard to get where I am.

Dr. House: But you didn't have to. People choose the paths that grant them the greatest rewards for the least amount of effort. That's the law of nature, and you defied it. That's why I hired you. You could have married rich, could have been a model, you could have just shown up and people would have given you stuff. Lots of stuff, but you didn't, you worked your stunning little ass off.

2. Can't have it both ways. "A woman can be perceived as competent or as likable, but not both." I've heard this before, and I've also seen it in action. When a man expresses emotion in the workplace, he's being "forceful" or "assertive" or "passionate." When a woman expresses emotion in the workplace, she's being "emotional." On the flip side, if she shows no emotion, she's "cold." Again, I do have to pick a bone a bit and say that I don't think it's impossible for a woman leader to be perceived as both competent and likable, but it's certainly difficult. That's why, when I meet a woman who has risen through the ranks, and who I think manages to walk that very fine line, I try to analyze exactly how she does it. How does she manage to be firm but not bitchy, polite but still assertive, encouraging but not naive?

This is why I like to watch "Voyager" (yes, I'm a Trekkie, I'm not ashamed.) Capt. Janeway has to look after her crew almost like a family, but no one would ever claim she's not tough enough. I'm always fascinated how the writers managed to make this character both competent and likable...and then try to figure out if how she acts would work when applied to the real world.

Comments welcome =)